At Capitol, around state, Minnesotans wrestle with gay marriage

  • Article by: BAIRD HELGESON , Star Tribune
  • Updated: April 7, 2013 - 6:15 AM

As legislators decide on legalizing gay marriage, they listen intently to voters’ voices.

In Prior Lake, a 71-year-old retiree went to a drag show with her gay nephew. In Dassel, the owner of a local cafe insists God’s law is clear: Marriage is between one man and one woman. At the Capitol, a nervous first-term legislator waits for the mail, hoping voters will break a deep moral deadlock over whether gay and lesbians should be allowed to marry.

In November, Minnesotans narrowly defeated a constitutional ban on gay marriage and swept DFLers into power throughout state government. Since then, the push for outright legalization of same-sex marriage has taken on a seldom-seen velocity nationally. At the State Capitol, legislators are within weeks of a vote for outright legalization — putting some lawmakers at odds with their parties or voters back home.

“This issue is killing me,” said state Rep. Jay McNamar, a first-term DFLer from Elbow Lake. “I don’t know what to do. You can’t imagine how hard of a decision this is to make.”

The renewed strain over the marriage issue is rooted in conflicting values woven deeply into the fabric of the state. Gay and lesbian supporters are tapping the state’s famously fierce independent streak as they try to make Minnesota among the first states to legalize same-sex marriage. That has put them on a collision course with a decades-old state law deeply rooted in Christian dictates defining marriage as a heterosexual union.

Nationally, the U.S. Supreme Court is about to decide cases testing how marriage is defined. Nine states have already opted to legalize same-sex marriages on their own.

In Minnesota, many DFLers are lining up strongly behind same-sex marriage. Not so in McNamar’s corner of western Minnesota, where support for the amendment that would have banned gay marriage topped 65 percent in parts of his district.

Fearing a backlash either way, McNamar refuses to discuss his personal views on marriage. Instead, the former small-town mayor said that when legalization of same-sex marriage comes on the House floor, his vote will rest solely on the results of a survey he mailed to his constituents.

So far, McNamar is hearing from a lot of people like Janice Bapp, owner of Dassel’s 3rd Street Cafe.

Bapp, 68, said she does not know of any gay or lesbian people in the area who want to marry.

“It’s not right. It doesn’t say in the Bible that same-sex people can marry,” said Bapp, rolling silverware in napkins after the breakfast rush. “That’s just all there is to it.”

Over in Winthrop, Greg Johnson said he can’t believe legislators are wasting time addressing the concept of marriage.

“I think people get confused and believe marriage is an American institution,” said Johnson, 34, owner of Sisters Coffee House and Restaurant. “Marriage is not so you can love the person you love. Marriage is for the children, it’s an institution that is about strengthening families.”

On the Iron Range, many residents are proud, lifelong Democrats with strong union ties. They warmly embrace liberal figures such as Gov. Mark Dayton, U.S. Sen. Amy Klobuchar and the late Sen. Paul Wellstone. But even though DFL support for same-sex marriage runs deep in urban areas, Iron Rangers are leery. Across the Range, pockets of voters supported the constitutional ban on gay marriage in overwhelming numbers.

Some Iron Range legislators are bucking the local electorate on the issue, albeit quietly.

“It’s a hard issue for the people of my district,” said Rep. Tom Anzelc, DFL-Balsam Township. Asked directly how he would vote if the issue came to the House floor, Anzelc paused, then said: “Put me down for marriage equality.”

Anzelc said he has family and loved ones who are gays and lesbians. He understands that many — maybe even most people in his district — may disagree with his view on marriage. “For me, it’s family,” he said. “But I do not talk about it.”


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