Reunions aren’t always easy. But they can be a gift to all sides.
What reunions require, what they bring forth
Wow! Sometimes things do work out as intended (“Mother-and-child reunions,” May 11). Such felicitous reunions require a loving and unselfish birth mother, equally loving and dedicated adoptive parents, and an informed and secure adopted child. Consistent cooperation among all of the parents, a lack of bad-mouthing of anyone and concentrating on rearing a competent adult-to-be seemed to be the focus in this family. Would that all adoptions played out this way!
Lloyd K. Sines, Big Lake
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As a mother who helped her three children through the maze of finding their birth families (it always is families, not just birth mother), I read both adoption stories on the May 11 Opinion Exchange cover with feelings. First, I have watched three birth mothers receive a big gift. They fear searching and fear upsetting their child, so by being found, they heal. Think of gifting her with you. Second, put aside your fears. Knowing even the bad part is better than not knowing anything. Third, Minnesota is fast becoming a drag on the adoption reform community by not passing original-birth-certificate legislation. Oh, and one more tidbit: My children and I have been much closer since meeting their “ghost” mother. Truly works as a gift on both sides.
Eunice Anderson, Burnsville
It’s a matter of import to all; it’s inescapable
Regarding Lori Sturdevant’s May 11 column on the omission of caregivers of the elderly from legislation to protect family leave for caregivers: Former First Lady Rosalyn Carter starts her book on caregiving quoting a colleague of hers — “There are only four kinds of people in this world: those who have been caregivers, those who are currently caregivers, those who will be caregivers, and those who will need caregivers.”
The rights of caregivers must be taken seriously and ought to be given legal protection, since according to the above quote we are all affected by caregiving. It could be our caregiver who is refused help for his or her rights at work.
Nancy Anderson, Brooklyn Center
Why do some wish to hide participation?
George Will states in his May 11 column concerning donors to conservative political-action committees: “Donors’ anonymity thwarts liberals’ efforts to injure the livelihoods of identifiable conservatives by punishing them for their political participation and thereby deterring others from participating.”
Why aren’t conservatives proud of their views and their participation in politics? If proclaiming their views cost them money, why is this unfair? We often have to pay for the courage of our convictions.
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