Celebrating a new era, but not without dissent
Looking at the photos in the Aug. 1 Star Tribune of same-sex couples getting ready for their weddings brought a smile to my face and a tear to my eye. When I saw the joy and love in their faces and in the faces of their friends, it reminded me of what marriage is all about.
Back in the 1980s, it was very common to have the verse “Today I will marry my friend; the one I laugh with, live for, love.” Maybe it’s a little trite, but yet there is much truth in it. Marriage isn’t just about children and sex.
When I married my husband, it was because, out of all the people in the world, he was the one I wanted to share my life with. I wanted his face to be the last thing I saw before I went to sleep at night and the first thing I saw when I woke up in the morning. When something made me happy, I couldn’t wait to share it with him, and when something made me sad, his arms around me brought comfort that I couldn’t find anywhere else.
It’s not just a special friendship; it’s a oneness that we share. Marriage is a commitment to that one other person in the world who makes you feel complete. I rejoice with all the couples marrying today and in the future. It’s about time you had the chance.
KATHLEEN BARTEMES, Austin, Minn.
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In defense of recent letter writers who were opposed to and saddened by the gala kickoff of the new Minnesota gay marriage law, I offer the following: The recent passing of my bride and lifetime partner came after 64 years of marriage. She was a legitimate model of what true marriage between a man and woman represented. She mothered and raised seven children while at the same time assisting me in a business venture. Before she died, while she was in home hospice, we often spoke about our life beyond death. We acknowledged our love for each other and shared firm belief that God would grant us his final reward by granting us eternal wedlock in his Holy Kingdom. Can the new wedding rules meet this criteria?
STANLEY J. KONDZIOLA, Brooklyn Park
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Remember the saying, “Marriages are made in heaven”? A piece of paper and a ceremony at city hall — even with the approval of a Legislature — do not a marriage make. We have lots of weddings, but not many marriages, no matter how much some wish it were so.
JAMES CARDINAL, Minnetonka
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Congratulations, Minnesota! It’s obvious that heterosexuals do not have a monopoly on love and commitment.
TOM MOONEY, Aspen, Colo.
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