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Ecklund, who has stayed friends with the family through all these years, said Costanzi “was a dedicated father. He gave up his merchant marine career, at least temporarily, to stay at home and take care of his daughter.”
Within a few years, Costanzi and his daughter moved from St. Paul to Buffalo, Minn., down the block from his sister, who helped raise Amanda so Barry could again ply the world’s oceans. He married in 1985 and had two sons with his second wife.
Amanda said having a father who was gone for weeks at a time on a ship was “a little bit of a roller coaster, when you have a daily presence and then you don’t. But it was kind of cool because no one else had a dad like that.”
And even though he would miss an occasional Christmas or recital, “he was still a big influence. We still knew when he was disappointed in us, even when he wasn’t there.”
Barry Vincent Costanzi graduated from Cretin High School in St. Paul in 1964 and then the U.S. merchant marine Academy in Kings Point, N.Y.
Along with daughter Amanda, Costanzi is survived by his mother, Marianne; brothers Victor and Christopher; sisters Maureen, Annette and Francine; wife, Joan, and sons Barry Nicholas and Luke.
Funeral services are scheduled for 11 a.m. Thursday at St. Francis Xavier Catholic Church, 300 1st Av. NW., in Buffalo, with visitation at the church starting at 9:30 a.m.
Paul Walsh • 612-673-4482