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Familiarity and boredom kill intimacy, so find a ritual that the two of you can find engaging. For example, physical activity is healthy and energizing. Hiking, dancing or sharing a sport combines leisure and companionship. “Other couples organize around common artistic interests such as concerts, culinary arts or literature. Others involve being fans of a sports team,” Furrow said. “Couples who are able to find a shared interest that they can invest in find new ways of investing in the bonds they share.”
Taking time to help others offers couples a chance to invest in their relationship. Working toward a common goal helps a couple find a deeper sense of unity by transcending their personal interests. When you and your partner decide to dedicate time or resources to others, you make a joint expression of your values.
Make time for intimacy
Sexual contact in a relationship of care, trust and vulnerability conveys a deep level of intimacy. Couples who focus on each other and express sexual affection find greater meaning in these rituals than those who focus primarily on their sexual needs. Keeping romance in sex often requires couples to intentionally express their physical and emotional desires. “Of course, you don’t always have to have sex to show affection,” Furrow said. “Everyday moments of sharing physical affection, like hugging, kissing and holding hands, show partners that they’re important and special.”