If you recognize yourself as being unable to handle breakups well, these resources can help you to cope.

DAP First Call

612-874-7063, answered 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Monday-Friday. Works from the premise that abusers "are not defined by the abuse they perpetrate. That it is not who they are, it is what they've done." www.domesticabuseproject.com

Twin Cities Men's Center

612-822-5892, answered 24 hours a day by voice mail. Offers groups that deal with relationships, anger management, divorce and other issues. www.tcmc.org

For abused individuals seeking help:

Day One MN Domestic Violence Crisis line. 1-866-223-1111, call from anywhere in Minnesota. www.cornerstonemn.org

Kim Ode