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Professionals still needed
When Mindy Gallimore married Ryan Murray in August, friends created a hashtag handle, #murramore, for their tweeting and photo-sharing. No one considered it cutting-edge, just normal.
“We both work in advertising and marketing, and a lot of friends do, as well,” she said. “Most of them are very attuned to social media. It’s not just part of our social lives, but our professional lives.”
Social media undeniably make weddings more public, she said, but also more distinctive. Last summer, she and Ryan attended a raft of weddings that, face it, could have blurred together. But each had a Twitter handle, which gave guests a way to participate to a greater extent than clinking champagne flutes.
She said their officiant asked guests to turn off any devices during the ceremony, although she hadn’t specifically requested that. “I’d seen at other weddings that it wasn’t a concern, that everyone knew to put their phones away.”
Nor did the St. Louis Park couple field any arched eyebrows from older family members at all the tweeting. “They’re so used to us having our phones out all the time.”
The immediacy of Instagrams was fun, she said, because the photos showed more candid moments. “But nothing will ever replace professional photos,” she said. “It’s nice to see the Facebook posts, but they don’t really compare.”
For Twitter or worse
Technology is here to stay. The popular wedding website www. theknot.com suggests that if the bride struggles with not updating her status on the hour, she designate a Tweeter of Honor.
Photo-sharing sites let guests download photos at the reception to a designated wedding album. Couples can livestream their wedding to friends or relatives unable to attend, whether it’s at a Fijian beach or a Burnsville church. Dilley has been to several where an elderly relative has been able to observe the ceremony or the toasts distantly via Skype, “which is actually very lovely when done well.”
There are even couples who take time at the altar to change their Facebook status from “engaged” to “married.”
That may send Aunt Frances into a tizzy, but then she may have driven Grandma Hortense into a tizzy by dancing the twist at hers.
“I mean, old etiquette books used to say to never mention that your parents are divorced,” Dilley said. “It’s always evolving.”
Kim Ode • 612-673-7185