Dear Amy: I am a 48-year-old separated mom. I'm confused on how to sign our Christmas cards this year. My son and I are living apart from my son's dad. We separated last summer.
In years past, our family has always sent a family photo Christmas card signed, "Merry Christmas, The Jones Family."
How should I sign our Christmas cards this year: "Merry Christmas, Mary and Johnny" or "Merry Christmas, Mary Jones," or what?
I do not send a holiday letter detailing the year's events, nor do I think it is appropriate to do so this year, especially because the news is separation/divorce.
I'm just not sure what to do. Maybe I shouldn't send cards this year?
Can you help with any words of wisdom?
SEPARATED IN SEATTLE
Amy says: You should definitely send cards this year. This will be your way of demonstrating to your son, yourself and your friends that, even when families change and go through challenging transitions, life goes on, Christmas still happens, and you still have reasons to celebrate the joys of the season.
This year you might want to take a snapshot of your son without either parent (people love watching children grow through these yearly photos). You can still sign your card, "The Jones Family," because you're still a family and always will be -- even if your circumstances have changed.
Friendship is turning into a crush
Dear Amy: I have a good friend who is 10 years older than I am.
We have been friends for years, and now we're both single and have reconnected after not seeing each other for a while. We talk a lot.
I feel as though I'm developing feelings for him that are more serious than being "just friends." I find myself becoming attracted to him and see potential in him, even though he's quite a bit older and unstable in his life and with his job. He doesn't have a good place to live and has no reliable transportation.
With all these factors, it's hard for me to think of having a relationship with him because of the way I was raised. I'm not even sure we'll be a good fit, and I definitely don't want to mess up our friendship.
What should I do?