Balancing Work And Family Life

By Matt Krumrie, Star Tribune Sales and Marketing

Last update: October 16, 2005 - 11:00 PM

Everyone we talk to is busy. Everyone wishes they had more time for family, and spent less time at work.

While longer hours appear to be the norm, many companies are well aware of the importance of balancing work and family life. That's why flexible scheduling and telecommuting are becoming such an important part of our workplace culture. Coinciding with October being National Work and Family Month, it's time to take a step back and remember the importance of balancing work and family life – not only now, but throughout the year, says Sharon M. Danes, Ph.D, professor and family economist at the University of Minnesota.

"Concentrate on what changes can be done that can be maintained rather than just doing something for the focused month," says Danes.

Danes says we need to remember what's important to us. While succeeding in your job and career can lead to greater personal success (through things such as more money, greater recognition or personal satisfaction), sometimes the people who suffer are the family members or those close to you. Instead of making them the top priority, work gets in the way. We all have to work, but we need to find that balance, that happy medium.

"Concentrate on your circle of influence rather than your circle of concern," says Danes. "The circle of influence is what you have control over. Your circle of concern is what you are concerned about but don't have control over. When you are in your circle of concern, you are usually angry and frustrated, which depletes your energy further. Be clear about priorities and make decisions, in both domains based on them."

Danes says communicating with those at home can help out at work. Be clear with your spouse/kids about your busy times, your stressful times, and when and why work is demanding so much of you.

"Be open about your job and what is expected of you," says Danes.

And in the end remember this – you can always get another job, but you can't get another family.

Matt Krumrie is a freelance writer from Inver Grove Heights, MN, and has seven years of experience reporting on the employment industry. The first Sunday of each month this column will answer readers' questions. E-mail questions or subject ideas to askmatt@startribune.com.

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