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Amy Dickinson

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Ask Amy: Sometimes 'I love you' seems like a threat

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for three years, and I have known his family for five years. I used to get…

Ask Amy: Secret passion leads to awkward friendship

Dear Amy: Almost two years ago, I fell hard for a man who at the time was my professor (he’s seven years older than I).…

Ask Amy: How to help when friends start to fail

Dear Amy: We have old friends who for most of their mar­riage traveled, so­cial­ized, at­tend­ed events and were al­ways look­ing for­ward to some­thing. Late­ly, how­ever,…

Ask Amy: Advice for an advice giver

Dear Amy: I have a really good friend who is having some personal issues. She asks me for help and advice, but she won’t follow…

Amy: Neighbor wonders how to intervene

Dear Amy: I have a neighbor who is usually kind, thoughtful and pleasant. He will go out of his way to help anyone. He presents…

Ask Amy: Mother wants to cut back on visits with Granny

Dear Amy: My mother didn’t like having kids. She never laughed or enjoyed us when we were growing up, and she’s similar in her attitude…

Ask Amy: Inviting co-workers to weddings is risky business

Dear Amy: I am wondering if you have some advice for me regarding a co-worker and my upcoming wedding. There was a time last year…

Ask Amy: Couple don't agree on financial transparency

Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for seven years. We still have separate bank accounts. I opened one joint account to which…

Ask Amy: Family wonders how to deal with 'complete jerk'

Dear Amy: Our family has a problem. We wonder what to do about the man who in all likelihood will soon be the husband of…

Ask Amy: Do you need to forget in order to forgive?

Dear Amy: I have seven brothers and sisters. One of my brothers waited to get married until his mid-40s. Before marrying, he was happy…

Ask Amy: Is it right to contact the boss over ex's stalking?

Dear Amy: My ex and have been separated for six years. After that we were on and off as a couple, but a year ago…

Ask Amy: Wife's enthusiasm creates burdensome sexpectations

Dear Amy: I am 64; my wife is 62. We are empty nesters. My wife and I are intimate most often on weekends, when I…

Ask Amy: Boyfriend's pricey gifts bother her

Dear Amy: My high school sweetheart has found me after decades apart.He seems to have become very superficial and wants to shower me in high-end…

Ask Amy: Illness interrupts wife's sexual desire

Dear Amy: My wife and I have been married more than 50 years. We are in our 70s. About seven months ago, my wife stopped…

Ask Amy: Parent jealous of new in-laws' togetherness

Dear Amy: One of our children recently married into a large, close-knit, gregarious family. These folks spend all holidays together, vacation together and, although most…

Ask Amy: Widow's solution could be sitting in driveway

Dear Amy: I lost my husband in a motorcycle accident in August 2014. Since then I’ve moved cross-country to be closer to my family and…

Ask Amy: Brother demands apology for religion slight

Dear Amy: A few years ago, my brother asked my husband and me if we would be willing to take in his daughter, as she…

Ask Amy: Family wonders how to respond to abusive partner

Dear Amy: My sister “Nancy” has been in an off-and-on relationship with “Sid” (both are 30 years old) for the past eight years.He is from…

Ask Amy: Granny wants him to put a ring on it

Dear Amy: I have a 23-year-old granddaughter who has been living with a 25-year-old man for over five years. He doesn’t seem to feel he…

Ask Amy: Parents wonder how to discipline other people's kids

Dear Amy: My wife and I are friends with the families of two children who play with our 7-year-old son. We know these families separately…

Ask Amy: Niece wants to confront uncle about family secret

Dear Amy: I grew up in a small town where everyone knows everyone’s business.My grandmother recently told me that the father of her son-in-law is…

Ask Amy: Girlfriend tells 'little' lies – a lot

Dear Amy: I have been dating my girlfriend for nine years. When we met she was going through a divorce and had kids to raise,…

Ask Amy: More on how to handle bullying

Dear Readers: I’ve stepped away from my column for a few days. Please enjoy these “Best Of” columns in my absence.Dear Amy: You asked for…

Ask Amy: Are quips a good 'comeback' to bullies?

Dear Readers: I’ve stepped away from my column for a few days. Please enjoy these “Best Of” columns in my absence.Dear Amy: My 12-year-old son…

Ask Amy: 75-year-old has a timeless problem

Dear Readers: While I’m on a short break, I hope you’ll enjoy this “Best Of” column.Let him down gentlyDear Amy: I am 75 years old…

Ask Amy: Don't embrace co-worker's hugging habit

Dear Readers: While I’m on a short break, I hope you’ll enjoy this “Best Of” column. He’s huggy for herDear Amy: I have been an…

Ask Amy: Nice guy husband can hold his drink. Is that a problem?

Dear Readers: I’ve stepped away from my column for a few days. While I’m gone, I hope you enjoy these “Best Of” columns, culled from…

Ask Amy: Pets dominate our lives, and this column

Dear Readers: I’ve stepped away from my desk for a few days. While I’m gone, please enjoy these “Best Of” questions. Today’s theme is pets.Retrieving…

Ask Amy: Parents wonder how to dole out allowance

Dear Readers: While I’m on a short break, I hope you’ll enjoy this “Best Of” column, which tackles parenting questions.Allowance guidelinesDear Amy: I grew up…

Amy: Volatile friend lashes out, making others worry

Dear Amy: Our group of friends has been close for a long while. We are all in our early 30s and have been friends more…

Ask Amy: Series of losses made worse by pal's distance

Dear Amy: Sixteen years ago my best friend introduced me to the man who would become my husband. Her husband, “Stan,” was my (future)…

Lucky wife and mom faces midlife ennui

Dear Amy: I am a 42-year-old wife and mother who is incredibly grateful for wonderful and healthy children, an incredible husband, good girlfriends and a…

Ask Amy: Sisters wonder how to confront abusive dad

Dear Amy: My childhood was rough. My mother died when I was 6. She wasn’t around much before that, but it took a hard…

Ask Amy: Family wants to exclude aunt from memorial

Dear Amy: My mother passed away, and my sisters and I are planning her “celebration of life” gathering.Mom was a loving and generous woman…

Amy: Wife's grip on the purse strings is abusive

Dear Amy: The company I worked for offered an early retirement package. Since I am not old enough to draw on my pension, I would…

Ask Amy: Mom wants to keep kids' wages minimum

Dear Amy: My twin 13-year-old daughters earn a few extra dollars baby-sitting neighborhood children.After my daughters completed the daylong Red Cross baby-sitting class last…

Ask Amy: College freshman tired of baby-sitting drunk roommate

Dear Amy: My freshman college daughter was not in a drinking crowd in high school. Her college roommate and her roommate’s friend party very…

Ask Amy: Lawyer should charge by the billable whines

Dear Amy: I’m a 29-year-old attorney. My 60-year-old secretary is Eeyore. She is a very nice woman but is also one of the unhappiest…

Ask Amy: Teen's sugar addiction is not so sweet

Dear Amy: I am a young teen who has a bad addiction to sugar. When I have tea, I put way too much sugar in…

Amy: Donation for 'face time' results in uncharitable reaction

Dear Amy: In an attempt to beautify her neighborhood, a popular blogger asked her followers for money to repaint a community fence. Anyone who donated…

Ask Amy: Family looks in closet after mother's death

Dear Amy: Please settle a disagreement for me. Recently my mother passed away. She was in her 80s, and when the family started to…

Ask Amy: Birth mother wants no part of 'After School Special'

Dear Amy: Periodically you run letters from adopted people searching for their birth families.I want to speak as a birth mother. When a baby is…

Ask Amy: Smell of pot brings on PTSD

Dear Amy: I am in a predicament. I have a good new friend who is having a birthday party he very much wants me to…

Ask Amy: A party girl's pregnancy crushes the buzz

Dear Amy: My friend and I were always the party girls in our group, always up for a good time, drinking and dancing until the…

Ask Amy: Teacher fails in comparison to 'Mom'

Dear Amy: I am an inner-city high school teacher. The high poverty rate makes the job very challenging and stressful. We are all working long…

Ask Amy: Boss' treatment takes toll on worker

Dear Amy: When I graduated from college I had no choice but to take the first full-time job offered to me. For the past nine…

Ask Amy: Elderly father-in-law is verbally abusive toward wife

Dear Amy: My father-in-law is a hardworking, no-nonsense, retired ex-engineer who carried a lot of responsibility at the company where he used to work. Now…

Ask Amy: Man wonders if co-worker is gay, wants to contact him

Dear Amy: Many years ago, I had a sexual relationship with a man. After we had been involved for about a year, he told me…

Ask Amy: Family table manners are grossly inadequate

Dear Amy: My husband and I just hosted another family meal and, once again, I am dismayed by the complete lack of basic manners and…

Ask Amy: College grad returns home to a hoarder

Dear Amy: My mother is a hoarder. I have had a tumultuous relationship with her all my life. I recently had to move back in…

Amy: Sex addict not welcome at Thanksgiving

Dear Amy: My42-year-old cousin is in a serious relationship with a 52-year-old man. She recently learned that he told her child’s 23-year-old baby sitter his…

Ask Amy: Man insists on biological child to create family legacy

Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I are in our 50s. We have known each other for 15 years, but started dating two years ago after…

Ask Amy: Anniversary getaway is all business

Dear Amy: I have been planning a four-day weekend getaway with my wife to celebrate our 20th anniversary. We have school-age children and work…

Amy: Drunken party causes fracas

Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I hosted a party. We consumed lots of alcohol. My boyfriend was drunk and started fighting with his friend. He…

Amy: Mother worries about daughter's bi guy

Dear Amy: My almost-25-year-old daughter is in a live-in relationship with a 36-year-old man who professes to be bisexual.He didn’t tell her this in the…

Ask Amy: Dad worries son's life is going to pot

Dear Amy: My 18-year-old son started college this year. He has a part-time job and is paying for a new car to drive to school…

Ask Amy: Woman treats friend like a spare tire

Dear Amy: I’m a woman in my late 20s. For several years, my friend “Terence” has always been there for me. He has…

Ask Amy: Life is perfect, but the toddler must go!

Dear Amy: I recently joined a wonderful family when I married a great man.Everything’s perfect — except for his nephew.The boy is not quite old…

Amy: Woman dreads telling parents she's pregnant

Dear Amy: Recently my husband and I decided we wanted to have another baby. A few days ago we learned that I’m pregnant.The problem is…

Ask Amy: Should optimist stay with depressed partner?

Dear Amy: I’m a single mother of three who has been dating a single father of three, on and off, for just over a year.…

Amy: Worried about addicted daughter's weight gain

Dear Amy: My daughter, 23, had severe alcohol dependency two years ago. She went through rehab and remains sober. She is under the care of…

Teen son's porn habit worries mom

Dear Amy: My 18-year-old son and I were sharing a computer. I stumbled on his activity when he left it open. It was deeply disturbing…

Amy: Infertile friend is hurting

Dear Amy: I have a very dear friend who has always wanted to be a mother. Unfortunately, she didn't find the right partner until recently. She is now over 40 and she and her husband have spent all their savings and gone into debt for fertility treatments. I think her doctors are being overly optimistic.

Amy: Family gatherings bring on stress

Dear Amy: I am one of five children -- three boys and two girls. We are all middle-aged and older. The youngest girl is the…

Ask Amy: Still friends with sister's ex

Sisters have to work on their relationship.

Ask Amy: When abuse won't stop, it's time to leave

Getting a divorce seems like a painful process, but getting out of your marriage will be the only thing to bring you peace.
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