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Ask Amy: My partner and I have a baby boy and live together. We are nearly 40

Dear Amy: My partner and I have a baby boy and live together. We are nearly 40. We sold our homes during the housing…

Ask Amy: Relationship falters through mutual bad behavior

Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I had a falling out last month. She told me that she didn't like the fact that I didn't…

Ask Amy: Parents won't forgive her boyfriend's drunken rant

Dear Amy: I was with a man I loved for almost four years. He is now in recovery, but before that he had multiple…

Ask Amy: Marriage hits the skids with virtual affair

Dear Amy: I have been married to my husband for 10 years. Our marriage has gotten better each year. I consider him a good…

Ask Amy: Celebrity stylist has designs on wedding dress

Dear Amy: I have been mentoring a young woman for about five years at my current company. I was instrumental in hiring her at…

Ask Amy: Facebook creates sticky wicket at office

Dear Amy: I work in an office on a small university campus. There are only eight people in our department, and for the most…

Ask Amy: Cookies brought to potluck don't go down well

Dear Amy: I recently hosted a summer potluck dinner for more than 50 guests.One friend called me three times to ask if I was…

Ask Amy: Girlfriend clashes with boyfriend's gal pal

Dear Amy: I have been dating a guy for about 2½ years. A recurring fight that we have is over one of his friends…

Ask Amy: Mom teaches twin sons wrong lesson on giving

Dear Amy: When my twin sons are invited to a friend’s birthday party, I always purchase two gifts (one from each boy) worth about…

Ask Amy: Boyfriend's mom gives cold shoulder over move-in plans

Ask Amy: My boyfriend and I (23 and 24) have been dating for the past seven months. We recently decided to move in together…

Amy: Distant sisters can't connect

Ask Amy: I have a sister who is much younger than I am. I'm now in my late 30s, she's in her early 20s,…

Ask Amy: Elder care takes social toll on daughter

Ask Amy: I’m a daughter of two parents in severely declining health. I am acting as primary caregiver for both of them. This is…

Ask Amy: Chief cook and bottle washer wants to hang up apron

Dear Amy: I am lucky enough to have my adult bachelor son (in his 30s) live near me. His father and I are in…

Ask Amy: She doesn't need parents' approval to move in with boyfriend

Dear Amy: I am a 30-year-old professional woman who owns her own home, has a stable career and lives a couple states away from…

Ask Amy: Neighbor's morning yardwork blows sleep away

Dear Amy: At what hour on weekend mornings is it reasonable to start running leaf blowers and lawn mowers? We have a neighbor who…

Ask Amy: Woman wants family members to include her guy

Dear Amy: I am a woman who has been divorced for three years, after a very long marriage. While I did instigate the divorce,…

Ask Amy: Dating relationship put to test by contact with ex

Dear Amy: I am gay and have been dating a great guy for a year and a half. We have a hefty age difference…

Ask Amy: Karma punishes by not delivering Mr. Right

Dear Amy: Toward the end of my junior year of college, I met a man who I thought was going to be Mr. Right…

Ask Amy: Young man greets adulthood from the couch

Dear Amy: Our son graduated with honors from a private high school several years ago. He wanted to take a year off before starting…

Ask Amy: Awkward family business leads to passive aggression

Dear Amy: My husband and I got into a business arrangement with his brother and his wife. The dissolution of that business left a…

Ask Amy: In-law tension keeps vacation house off limits

Dear Amy: I’ve been married for 10 years to a wonderful man. I have a loving relationship with his mother. When my sister-in-law was…

Ask Amy: Teen worries about friend in abusive relationship

Dear Amy: I'm in high school. My group of friends is so close that we often joke about being family.We are generally a very…

Ask Amy: Grammy may freak over couple's new identity

Dear Amy: My fiancé and I are marrying soon. We’ve already decided on choosing a new last name together and using our previous surnames…

Ask Amy: Baby brother is high on life – and weed

Dear Amy: I am the proud big sister of my 18-year-old brother, "Baxter."His last day of high school was yesterday, and he is set…

Ask Amy: Young marriage is already on the rocks

Dear Amy: I have been married to my husband for two years and we dated for two years before that. Somehow, he managed to…

Ask Amy: Friend's meals are stretching bounds of hospitality

Dear Amy: I have been “best friends” with a never-married woman for 25 years. She does not like to cook and, consequently, eats poorly.…

Ask Amy: Mother should 'trust but verify' son's sobriety

Dear Amy: I have a 19-year-old son. He is my only child. He has been into drugs and alcohol for more than five years.…

Ask Amy: Man's donation results in multiple dividends

Dear Amy: Twenty years ago, I was a sperm donor. My motivation then was entirely financial; since then, I’ve rarely given it a thought.…

Ask Amy: Agnostic offended by prospect of church ceremony

Dear Amy: I am a 49-year-old man. I was raised conservative Christian, but now I am firmly agnostic and I have no interest in…

Ask Amy: Prosperous elders want friends to help pay

Dear Amy: My husband and I are prosperous senior citizens. We are friends with another prosperous senior couple and often socialize together. He no…

Ask Amy: Child of mentally ill mom feels long-term impact

Dear Amy: How do you tell someone you love that they are ruining your life? My mother has dealt with mental illness, addiction and…

Ask Amy: Cousin says no to visit from across political spectrum

Dear Amy: My grandparents have scheduled a visit. They live in another state. Normally I’d be really excited about this, but they’re bringing my…

Ask Amy: Sister's demands for apologies test relationship

Dear Amy: My sister often shares that she is upset about things I said or did years ago. Her pain is real, but I…

Ask Amy: After a false accusation, aunt now wants to move on

Dear Amy: A while back, an heirloom necklace of mine went missing.The only person to visit me recently had been my adult niece. I…

Ask Amy: Teen worries about friend's cutting

Dear Amy: I have a friend, “Morgan,” who I found out has been cutting herself. Morgan has struggled with depression since she was young.…

Ask Amy: Man wonders why his 'Hollywood hello' goes badly

Dear Amy: I’m a middle-aged, white, gay man living in West Hollywood. I’d like your advice on the proper way to give a friendly…

Ask Amy: Mom wishes she hadn't been witness to a kiss

Dear Amy: My family and I live in a small town in the Midwest.My daughter's friend from high school and college, "Laura," is getting…

Ask Amy: Adult daughter hurt after dad, stepmom read old letters to grandma

Dear Amy: My parents divorced when I was 10. My paternal grandmother was the only constant during that tough time. We wrote each other…

Ask Amy: Wife wonders if e-mail relationship is cheating

Dear Amy: My husband I have been married for three years. We jumped through many hoops in order to be together. I thought we…

Ask Amy: Youth sports league juggles compassion and fee

Dear Amy: I am a volunteer for a youth sports league. I coach a team (that my child is on), and help organize team…

Ask Amy: Parents declare princess-free zone for daughter

Dear Readers: Amy is putting the finishing touches on her new book. Enjoy these “Best Of” columns in her absence.   Dear Amy:…

Ask Amy: Woman returns from vacation pregnant by masseur

Dear Readers: Amy is putting the finishing touches on her new book. Enjoy these “Best Of” columns in her absence.   Dear Amy:…

Ask Amy: Why no one wants to dine with your kids

Dear Readers: Amy is putting the finishing touches on her new book. Enjoy these “Best Of” columns in her absence.   Dear Amy:…

Ask Amy: Son doesn't want to wait until mom dies to read mystery letter

Dear Readers: I’ve stepped away from my column for a week while I put the finishing touches on my new book, which will be…

Ask Amy: Jail time and divorce sever grandparent ties

Dear Amy: My son and daughter-in-law are separated. My son is in county jail awaiting sentencing. His wife has moved on and is in…

Ask Amy: Yoga student wants downward-facing silence in class

Dear Amy: I have been practicing yoga for five years, the past two with one teacher. The lessons are private and, as a result,…

Ask Amy: Former friend flees first, worries later

Dear Amy: About five years ago, my (now ex) boyfriend and I leased a place with some friends. One of these friends, “Mark,” ended…

Ask Amy: She wants husband to be more engaged with baby

Dear Amy: I’ve been married for five years to a wonderful, funny and very hardworking man. We have one child, who just turned 1.…

Ask Amy: Man's partner has intimate relationship with another man

Dear Amy: For the past two years I have been in love with a wonderful woman. When we met she explained that she was…

Ask Amy: Seriously ill mother also copes with tough teen

Dear Amy: I've been dealing with epilepsy more than 20 years. Several tests by my neurologist mark me as a good candidate for surgery.…

Ask Amy: Stepdad wants to give tenant the boot

Dear Amy: My wife's daughter, 26, has lived with us for the past five years. She pays rent of $400, including everything. Her boyfriend…

Ask Amy: Friend's dominance is discussed in therapy

Dear Amy: I am a woman in my late 60s who has had a friend for more than 40 years. Many years ago I…

Ask Amy: Adult adoptee is handed birth file. Now what?

Dear Amy: I am 43 years old and was adopted at birth. I had the usual curiosities about my biological parents growing up, but…

Ask Amy: Why are parents of sons in second place?

Dear Amy: Why is it that having male children puts us in second place? I have three sons and get very sad when it…

Ask Amy: Son turns 21 and throws a party for the ages

Dear Amy: My stepson recently turned 21. Because he has friends who are minors, his mother warned him about the responsibilities involving the use…

Ask Amy: Co-worker's emotional affair interferes with perfect marriage

Dear Amy: I thought I had the perfect marriage until I met "Brian" three years ago.I instantly felt a connection and attraction to him.…

Ask Amy: Friendship 'freeze-out' after years of insults, childishness

Dear Amy: My husband and I decided to end a 25-year couple friendship after many years of putting up with the wife’s veiled, and…

Ask Amy: Hardworking husband doesn't work on marriage

Dear Amy: For much of our marriage (25-plus years), my husband worked 60-plus hours per week. While I admired his work ethic, it came…

Ask Amy: Abusive father now insists that daughter apologize

Dear Amy: My parents got divorced when I was a toddler. My father was very abusive — verbally and physically — so I did…

Ask Amy: Woman from abusive family finds same with husband

Dear Amy: I’ve been married for almost 20 years to a man who I think is a good person and a good provider. When…

Ask Amy: Husband struggles to navigate tricky family dynamic

Dear Amy: My mother has made my wife's life difficult — with poor comments and decisions, and by not respecting my wife as the…

Ask Amy: Teen son is abandoned by friends; can dad help?

Dear Amy: My 15-year-old son had numerous friends, but in the past year all of them have taken to drinking (vodka) and smoking pot.…

Ask Amy: Mother worries that daughter is a self-absorbed jerk

Dear Amy: I am the mother of 21- and 19-year-old daughters. They are both in very self-absorbed stages — the older more than the…

Ask Amy: Son and girlfriend filched material; what's a mother to do?

Dear Amy: My dear adult son (in his 30s) recently invited me to meet his new girlfriend of two months. He seems to be…

Ask Amy: Getting a Ph.D. was easy, compared with dealing with Mom

Dear Amy: I am a 27-year-old recent Ph.D. graduate who has moved back into my parents' home (hopefully temporarily) and looking for my first…

Ask Amy: Teen girl is ready to have a baby, but is her guy?

Dear Amy: I've been seeing this boy. We've hit it off very well, right from the beginning.We have been dating for six months, and…

Ask Amy: Technological glitch leads to missed connection

Dear Amy: I am one of the blessed millennials who has a job I love. This job happens to involve a great deal of…

Ask Amy: Woman feels betrayed when friend dates her ex

Dear Amy: I broke up with my boyfriend of three years a few months ago.I thought we were working on things and were going…

Ask Amy: Readers respond to an engagement ultimatum

Dear Readers: A recent letter from "Wannabe Fiancee" described a familiar situation. She had lived with her boyfriend for five years, and despite dropping…

Ask Amy: Husband's cancer leads friends to suggest miracle cures

Dear Amy: My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer last fall. He has been on chemotherapy, but two regimens have ceased to…

Ask Amy: Gay teen wants to come out in time for prom

Dear Amy: I am 17 years old and a lesbian. I'm trying to figure out how to come out to my family, or at…

Ask Amy: Sisters crush one another by not 'being there'

Dear Amy: I have three sisters. We have no brothers. We are all over 60.In 2013 and 2014, two of my brothers-in-law died and…

Ask Amy: For this student, 'wife me' equals 'beer me'

Dear Amy: I am a college student. I have had one serious boyfriend. We broke up at the beginning of this year, and I…

Ask Amy: Teen daughter wants some dime to pay for ink

Dear Amy: Our daughter is a bright, talented 19-year-old who has already gotten four small tattoos, several ear piercings and a nose ring. You…

Ask Amy: Married man is being blackmailed by former lover

Dear Amy: I'm an older man, married for a number of years. Not a "terrific" marriage, but I've lived it so long I'm just…
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